fashion icons

‘Dad we had exactly the same conversation, yesterday.”

“I just realized that.”

“And, yeah, the funniest thing is that we, like, said the exact same things the day before and, dad, the worst or the best, hahaha, I don’t know, you know, yeah it’s that we were exactly at the exact same place.”

We’re on our usual walk through the park on the way to his day camp.

“NOoooooo….”

“Yesssssssss…”

“Nooooooooo….”

By now we’re both smiling so widely it’s loud.

“Ohhhh yeeeesssss….”

“Noah, we’re like an old couple that always says the same things to each other  because they’re together all the time and…”

“…and they like finish, you know, each, uh, each other’s sentences. Hahaha.”

He looks at me over his sunglasses to see if I got his joke.

“Get it dad? i just like you know….”

“….completed my sentence?” I throw him a look. He punches me in the gut.

We dissolve into a giggle-filled squabble.

This morning he’s in a great and generous mood.

Me too.

“I love the way you’re growing up, Noah. And you have a great sense of humor.”

“Yeah, I do.”

“And modest at that.”

“Hahaha….good one, Yeah, you’re like me, dad, you have like a nasty sense of humor, I like nasty humor.”

“It’s got to be smart though, like George Carlin. remember?”

“Yeah, yeah, like about his stuff, that was good, like, uhm, the way he was always buying too much stuff and had to like always move because he had ‘too much stuff’.”

He does a credible impersonation of the scruffy comedian’s indignant tone.

“Dad, you know, these glasses make me look Japanese.”

“Cool, this way it fits what you’re wearing.”

It’s the last day of the summer camp and they’re doing a Chic Ball. The kid’s were encouraged to dress up. Noah is wearing an outfit that a friend of mine brought back from Japan.

The evening before he was doubtful.

“I look dumb, dad.”

“No. You look great.”

“But nobody wears this.”

“That’s what fashion icons never say to themselves.”

“What do yo mean?”

“Other people imitate them because they set trends, because they take risks, because they’re confident in their coolness.”

“They have swag,”

“They have swag.”

This morning, again, he almost ran of courage. He was posing in front the mirror in full dress.

“Dad, I feel weird.”

“You look like a teen star on the red carpet.”

“Like the Teen Awards?”

“Exactly.”

He’s still reticent. Being remarkable takes guts. Because it involves being remarked, with all that implies of potential embarrassment and occasional humiliation.

“You know, Noah, why don’t you wear your cool shades. It would be absolutely perfect.”

“Hmmm.”

I jump into action, rummage through a drawer, find his sunglasses which I wipe down from several months of dust. He slips them on and poses at the mirror. His sudden face splitting smile says it all.

Now we’re almost at the camp and he is again assailed by doubts.

“You know what, Noah, I bet you that as soon as we go in, the girls, the animators at the registration desk are all going to go goo-goo gaa gaa, ‘oh you’re so cute, wow, what an outfit’. How much you wanna bet?”

“Two Pokémon booster packs if I win.”

Wow! That was on the tip of his tongue.

“Okay, and if I win I get two hugs.”

“Really?”

“Yeah.”

“When do I get to buy them, dad?”

“You don’t.”

“Why?”

“Because you’re going to lose, oh yeah, oh yeah.”

Of course if he loses, he wins.

We reach the camp. The entrance has two sets of glass doors. The registration desk is in the lobby just beyond. Noah pulls the first door and even before it hits his butt, we see the girls at the desk do ‘ooh’ and ‘aaahh’ and point to us. I start a dance of victory as we go through the second set of doors into the lobby.

The ladies literally erupt into cheers.

“Noaaaaahhhh…..you’re so gorgeous. What a cool outfit. Wow.”

The staff at the general desk come around to check the commotion. All women.

“Oooohhh, so nice. With the glasses and all.”

My boy stands, hand in pocket, smiling widely, looking left and right. The only thing missing are the flashes.

“And the best is that I get two hugs because I won the bet. I told him you would say that. Come on, pay up.”

He throws his full 137 centimeters against me.

There is a collective ‘Ooooohhh’ from the ladies of the lobby.

As he disappears into the stairwell I wonder how I sometimes forget about the wonder of it all.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

scream…

Went to bed at 11pm, exhausted, convinced I would sink instantaneously into comfortable sleep.

The day had been quiet and enjoyable. Noah and I spent the afternoon at my sisters. We watched the Euro Soccer final while Noah literally sat on his cousins and played Nintendo, talked up a storm and ate only snack food.

Perfect

Noah wondered if he could sleep over at their house. My sister was obliged to disappoint him.

“You know Noah, Vince gets up at noon (that’s the 15 yr old), and Melina’s gone to her summer job before 8 (that’s the 18 yr old). Later, in summer, we’ll work it so that you can sleep over a couple of days when they’ll be around. Maybe combine it with a trip to La Ronde.”

“Okay.”

Sometimes he’s so reasonable it pains me.

On the way back home, Melina gave us a lift proud of her new learner’s permit. As we rode over the bridge we had a full panoramic view of La Ronde, the big amusement park which is Noah’s Valhalla.

“Look, tonton (uncle) George…that’s the Sky Screamer. I really really want to go on that one.”

A tower as high as the bridge, whipping screaming fools in swing chairs round and round. It looked obvious to me that one of those chairs would eventually go flying off.

“That’s really cool,” says the Uncle.

“Make me puke,” say I.

“Dad, you gotta do it with me.”

“No way. I’m freaked by heights, so…and I don’t trust Amusement park technology.”

“Dad, do you know how many people have like, died, since like La Ronde is open?”

I play along.

“How many?”

“None, dad, not one. It’s like safer than even crossing the street.”

“I’ll go with you, Noah.” says his cousin.

“Looks really exciting,’ says the Uncle.

Yes, I’m a physical coward. But a moral warrior.

By the time we got home, it was bedtime. Noah brushed his teeth, fed his fish and was ready for bed without the shadow of a protest.

So reasonable.

I was overwhelmed by the urge to hug him.

“Dad, it’s too hot.” He wiggles his way out of my grasp. He’s all arms and legs now, so he has an effective bony defense.

“Dad, I would really want to, you know, sleep over at tantine’s (auntie’s) for like, I don’t know, a few days, this summer.”

“I’ll try to work it out for you, Noah.”

“Because, you know, I really love my cousins. Yeah, especially Vince. Now, I don’t know why, but he’s like the best cousin I have, you know.”

“He’s a boy and closer to your age than Melina. I guess that helps.”

“Yeah, and he really is nice with me. It’s like we can share, you know.”

“I know. Family Ties.”

“Yeah, that’s why I’m not like afraid to go you know on the Sky Screamer because I can go like with Vince and Melina and be like tied to them in the chair. Imagine like tied with a rope in the chair, you know so we don’t go flying. That’s funny.”

“Tonton Georges is going to want to go also.”

“I think you can be four, dad, if you squeeze, so yeah, he can come too and get all tied up. Haha.” Then he snorts because it’s just too funny.

“Lots to look forward to.”

“Yeah. I’m excited to do it with them.”

“Okay, buona notte, sogni d’oro, a domani.”

Kiss, smack, pat on the butt and I leave his room. He’s asleep in two minutes.

Later, at 11pm, despite my physical fatigue, I lie in bed awake. The more I try, the less I fall asleep.

Noah’s cousins are hardly children anymore. My sister was telling me how hard it has become to keep them involved in family affairs. Their four person unit is dissolving. Before it coalesces into a new formation, she feels a little lost, a little sad.

For a few seconds I feel terribly alone as I imagine my life without Noah. He’s only nine, but every parent I respect has told me to enjoy these years because then they grow up and leave in all sorts of ways.

I tell myself to remember that, next time I’m too tired or lazy or indifferent to join him in a game or activity.

I turn over on my stomach and curl up in a comforting position.

One thing is for sure, though. No way I’m doing the Sky Screamer.

Really….?

…reaaaalllllyyyy ….?

“Dad, you know the way I like sorta change often…yeah like when I was young I was crazy about elephants.”

At nine, he remembers when he was young…

“Yeah, this is how it is…,” he collects himself.

At these moments I have a millisecond expectation that he will finally tell me how it is, the whole ball of wax and its meaning, thousands of years of philosophy and religion and science finally resolved.

“Yeah, this is how it is, when I was young I was interested only in elephants, yeah then I went crazy nuts about wild animals, remember? But then, I grew up … remember dad, when I just dropped my diaper to the floor and ran to poo in the toilet?”

Yeah, and then he pulled it back up for an extra year when his Mom started going schizo. Preferred his own crap to hers, I guess.

“So then I went completely freaky over uh, dinosaurs, especially the spinosaurus because they were so epic cool. But now, you know I love Pokemon and Ninjago. I think I’ll like them forever…at least, uhm , three years like.”

Three years has been my maximum forever for the last while. Sometimes forever is one night, continental breakfast not included.

Forever, the moment before death…

…the moment before orgasm…

…the moment when my son’s hand reaches for mine…

…the instant she comes through the door and you don’t know who she is but you know you will…

forever…

…the moment before the buttered toast revolves one last time before hitting the floor, butter down.

“Sounds about right..by then you’ll be a teen…”

“Pre-teen dad, I’ll be twelve.”

“Pre-teen is an invented age to sell you stuff.”

“So what am I? or sorry dad what am I going to be?”

“Whaaaa…?”

“I mean if I won’t be a pre-teen what am I going to be?”

“A kid.”

“That sucks.”

The cat stretches its four paws with such extreme delight that its toes separate. She’s lying on top of the blanket on top of Noah on the futon, as she does every morning.

“Maybe you could be a cat.”

“Naaahhhh…that’s even more suckish. I mean I love my cat but I love being a human even more.”

In a last yawn and stretch, teh cat digs her claws into Noah.

“Ooooouuuhhhffff.” He grimaces but doesn’t swat her away. Love is like that sometimes.

“Dad, what do you call yourself?”

“Sir.”

He has the tired smile of a parent with a wise-ass kid.

“Noooo…I mean when you were too old to be a teen you became an adult right?”

Still working on that one. I know that recently I became a man.

“So what, like what are you? An adult until you die? I don’t know how to say it. What do you grow into at your age, what is it called?”

A satyr? A sage? An erect member of society? All of the above?

“Happy! You can call me happy.”

“Really?” He’s surprised. So am I.

“Yeah…mostly…some days it’s tougher, sadder…”

“Like when Nonna died?”

“Yeah, like that…but otherwise you can say I’ve grown into happiness.”

“Are you more happy because I’m in your life?”

Pre-teen my ass, this kid is ooooollllddd.

“Absolutely.”

The cat is staring. Feline sincerity test.

“Really?”

“Really really.”

“Really, really, really?”

“Really, really, really reaaaaaaalllllyyyyyyy!”

Now he goes Italian tenor on me….real loud.

“Reaaaaaaaaalllllllllllyyyyyyyyyyy.”

The cat jumps off, her ears pinned back. She looks back at me over her shoulder, a look of reproach.

I stick my tongue out at her.

Noah sings an operatic rap version of the Reaaaaallllly song as he rushes to the bathroom.